Motivate Your Child: a Christian Parent’s Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told is a new book by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller (RN/BSN). That’s a long title, right? Well, this is a meaty book deserving of such a title! It was publicly released just a few days ago; but, as a member of the Official Launch Team, I received a copy before the public. I have been reading, taking notes, and copying favorite quotes. This book is so jam-packed with information that it is taking me a while to read through to the end. But, that’s OK. I don’t want to rush things and miss something vitally important. And, trust me, this book is full of helpful information! In a moment, I will get to just what exactly this book has to offer and what I think about it. But, first, a bio of the authors.
Dr. Scott Turansky has been a pastor and missionary for over 33 years. He is the co-founder of the National Center for Biblical Parenting (NCBP). He and his wife have five children. He has already authored several books prior to Motivate Your Child. In addition to his other ministries, Dr. Turansky teaches parenting seminars all over the United States.
Joanne Miller is a nurse with over 25 years of experience working with children. She, along with Scott, is also co-founder of the NCBP. She has co-authored twelve books. She and her husband have two grown sons. She also enjoys teaches parenting seminars and she oversees much of the day-to-day operations at NCBP.
As a parent of three children, I am well aware of how difficult it can be to motivate my children. I want them to do their schoolwork, clean their rooms, take care of the pets, load the dishwasher, practice kindness for others – and much more – without having to be reminded, nagged, threatened, punished, etc. I want them to do these things on their own! But, the truth is, most of us (and especially children) are selfish. We want to do what we want to do and not have to do what we don’t want to do! Yet, there are things we want to do that are not good for us. And things we don’t want to do that we must do anyway if we are to get through life successfully. As a parent, how do I motivate my children to do the right things? That’s where Motivate Your Child comes in!
Parenting experts Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller demonstrate how God’s Word gives us the best way to parent, one that builds strong internal motivation in children. (rear cover)
True motivation comes from the heart! And, in order to truly motivate our kids, we need to approach our training with a heart-based approach, one that is not built on external things like nagging, yelling, punishment, etc. It should be easy enough to motivate a child by saying, “You know the right thing to do!” But, this won’t work, if he hasn’t been taught what the right things are. Where do we find the right things? In God’s Word!
By reading Motivate Your Child, you will learn:
- How to parent in ways that build internal motivation so kids don’t have to rely on you to get things done.
- The four promptings of the conscience and how to coordinate your parenting to take advantage of them.
- Ways to energize your spiritual training with fun and creativity.
- How to help children respond to mistakes instead of blaming, defending, or justifying.
Wow, that last one really gets me! I see it everywhere: People who blame others for their own problems, or refuse to take responsibility for their own actions; who feel entitled to something they don’t deserve; who defend poor actions by saying “God knows my heart;” who know what is right, but choose wrong anyway; who are quick to take offense at even the smallest of “slights;” and so much more. I don’t want to be a part of this mentality and I don’t want my children to be a part of it! [Note: As I write this, I happen to be watching the end of a Dr. Phil show featuring a family in dire stress because of anger, blame, defensiveness, etc. Dr. Phil is offering a rehabilitation program to the teen daughter and, of course, she doesn’t want to do it. It’s a shame that they ever got to this point and that she cannot see the offer of aid as a blessing. This is just ONE example of the problems families are facing in today’s world!]
No, I’m not perfect. In this life, I never will be. My children aren’t perfect. In this life, they never will be. We have moments of utter failure! However, I can strive to be a better person and I can strive to teach them to be better people. Motivate Your Child is a toolbox full of encouragement, ideas, strategies, and more that will help me on this journey to being better-equipped for all that life throws at me. It can help you, too!
Happiness may be found in the destination, but character is built in the journey. (page ix)
Motivate Your Child is broken into two main parts: (Part I ) Moral Development in Children and (Part II) Spiritual Development in Children. Topics discussed in Part I include internal motivation, external motivation, strategy, conscience, mistakes, integrity, compassion, initiative, consequences, and more. Topics in Part II include God’s plan, family time, foundational relationships, practicing faith, preparing for resistance, etc. However, the book begins with an introduction that encourages parents to imagine the destination. What do we want our kids to be when they grow up? Successful? Educated? Responsible? Faithful? Happy? Kind? It reminds us that we must make a commitment now in order to see the destination fulfilled. It is also a reminder that spiritual success is the most important thing! The book concludes with a discussion of hope. Those of us who are Christians know that true hope comes from God!
Moral and spiritual development increase internal motivation. (page x)
During the launch, Motivate Your Child has been available for pre-sale with a $150 bonus value. That bonus is still available through January 31, 2015. There are video, audio and print items that can be used on a variety of devices. You can learn more on the Book Website.
INSTRUCTIONS TO RECEIVE THE BONUS: Purchase the book. (You can do that below using the Amazon widget.) Email the receipt to firstname.lastname@example.org. The NCBP will send you the link and a special code to access these downloadable products. This offer is good until January 31, 2015.
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